Providing people with the tools, space and affirmation they deserve to develop as individuals and in relationships.

Hi, I’m Ailis Weir (she/they), a person-centred therapist who primarily works with members of LGBTQ+, non-monogamous, sex work positive and kink communities. As a queer therapist, I can help you explore your issues in a safe and non-judgmental place. Having a deeper understanding of the community, allows me to appreciate the struggles (and joys) of queerness.

I often find that people begin to struggle with relationships, before they notice other things aren’t working for them. This can sometimes mean our relationships end up being ‘check engine’ lights in our lives. That might be your relationship with your partner/s, family members, friends or metamours or yourself. I’m able to work with you to look at how you manage conflict, what your preferred relationship style is, and to see what your relationships might be showing you. All of this can be really helpful in gaining insight into what you would like your life to look like, and how we can work towards that.

I am also a member of queer, kink and non-monogamous communities, so I’m comfortable discussing these topics with you in a frank and open way. It can be hard talking to mental health professionals about these aspects of life, particularly if you have faced judgement in the past. I can provide you and your partner(s) with the space to discuss your issues openly and honestly, without fear.

My practice is specifically modelled on the needs of my clients. I can collaborate with you, wherever you’re at, and help you work out what’s important to you.

About Me 

My Approach

Testimonials

  • SM

    Ailis is really good at understanding the layers beneath my thoughts and feelings, and helps me to gradually peel them back. I also like that they are sympathetic but not smothering. I also like that there is a bit more of a back and forth than I’ve had with therapists before. In the past I’ve found myself trying to fill silence as, understandably, a therapist wants to let you talk and be a safe space for listening. Ailis is all of these things, but also offers insightful suggestions that help me come to much needed realisations. I feel heard, I feel cared for but I don’t feel pitied or babied. This therapy really has been life changing. I’m finally understanding and processing things from years ago that I thought I already had. It’s been a lovely catharsis.

  • JC

    I've found the sessions hugely useful. Compared to other therapists I've felt particularly understood and heard by Ailis, I feel Ailis has a real investment in my progress, evidenced by the fact she often remembers details of my personal problems and seems to have a clear picture of my mental health journey. Ailis' questions are sensitive, open and curious, and I always feel listened to. I've also found learning about concepts like the Window of Tolerance hugely helpful. Giving these concepts a name helps them to feel like tools I can use day to day.

  • RL

    It felt effortless communicating with Ailis. She is a great listener and is patient in sessions. Ailis encourages you to reflect on areas that you have not considered before. Ailis is incredibly thoughtful and remembers details from past sessions effectively. Ailis is a fantastic therapist, I cannot recommend them enough. Ailis is your cheerleader that is in your corner, they uplift you and help you reflect in new ways. I am very grateful for my sessions with Ailis, time flew by so quickly and I feel happier, healthier and more aware of myself.

  • GP

    Working with Ailis has helped me so much to get to know myself better and understand many of unresolved issues I had with myself primarily. Through her gentle ways she has she has guided me to learn to recognise and name my emotions and then try to regulate them. This was essential in improving my relationship with myself and consequently with the whole world. Thanks to patient guidance by Ailis I am now able to recognise toxic behaviours of my own and of other people around me and I have learned that being kind does not equal people pleasing.

  • WR

    Though I have participated in counselling previously I must say that our sessions together provided very constructive results. They were buoyant without sacrificing depth, delving, revealing and constructive. To this day I continue to discover and recover many of my achievements and validate myself with them. Feeling good about myself is a daily reality for which I am truly grateful to Ailis. I have without any hesitation, full confidence in recommending you to anyone who is searching for assistance to discover their answers when they are faced with life’s challenges.

  • JM

    My life has massively improved since starting therapy with Ailis. Career, personal relationships and my sex life have all improved drastically. It’s been one of the most important things I’ve ever done and has stopped an unhealthy cycle in my life. I feel like I can be very honest. It was also very helpful to me to have therapy with another queer person, especially as I was quite uncomfortable about discussing sex at first.

  • RN

    I really hoped to find a queer- and neurodivergent-friendly therapist and that’s exactly what I found. I’d tried different kinds of therapy with several different therapists before, but none of them made me feel as understood and at ease as Ailis. I never feel like I have to justify myself. I didn’t go into therapy with any specific goals beyond trying to improve my mental health after years of living with mental health conditions, but therapy helped me to identify my goals and work consistently towards them. It has also given me a space to talk about a lot of big life changes that I felt far more able to handle with the support of therapy.

  • NB

    Therapy has got me further than I even imagined. I found my sessions extremely helpful, life changing even. Ailis was able to help me understand my feeling and reactions to things in my life that I couldn’t understand myself. Finally, being comfortable enough to share everything going on in my life meant that I could address some critical imbalances, my toxic relationship and heal quite a substantial amount of parental trauma. My life is completely different to when I started therapy with Ailis, all for the better. I feel much more in touch with my emotions, my body, and my own needs.

  • SS

    Ailis gave me the space and platform to process my feelings but also gain confidence in the actions I took. I feel like I’m in a much healthier place than when I started. I can navigate my relationships with a lot more ease than before. I’m a lot more in touch with what I’m feeling at the time and [I don’t] shame [myself] for taking the time to process things. We didn’t shy from tougher topics which ultimately was so important for my progress and feelings. I didn’t realise how much I can hold back. It’s been so so lovely to have been given a space where I can share so much of myself with no judgment and felt so very seen.